tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post6331770042182192087..comments2023-10-26T21:10:59.369+05:30Comments on හිරු නැති හෝරාව: Are you doing it for the kids or for just your selfish need to be free ?හිරුhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-52327158867995249902018-04-25T09:33:58.643+05:302018-04-25T09:33:58.643+05:30කොහෙද හිටියෙ වීයෝ... ( මරු එක්කෙනා නේ අහන්නෙ... හ...කොහෙද හිටියෙ වීයෝ... ( මරු එක්කෙනා නේ අහන්නෙ... හි හි.. ) හිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-85721953938595283152018-04-25T08:13:54.456+05:302018-04-25T08:13:54.456+05:30මේකනම් සිංහල බ්ලොග් පාවාදීමක්...! (කිසිදෙයක් තේරුන...මේකනම් සිංහල බ්ලොග් පාවාදීමක්...! (කිසිදෙයක් තේරුන්නෑ අන්න ඒකයි මම කියන්නෙ..)වීපොකුරෙ වීයාhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05061570022693307816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-85573348104011385592017-11-01T09:51:35.581+05:302017-11-01T09:51:35.581+05:30I totally agree with you Hiru. I have seen this ha...I totally agree with you Hiru. I have seen this happening.some friends from my batch had to give up their careers for the same reason. Now, the point is they got their engineering degrees from a government university. Government spent people's tax money on their degrees and it has become a total waste now. Also, they got this precious chance for higher education while many other innocent students didn't get it. I just brought this up. This is something to think about in addition to the facts you mentioned. A women, giving up a career is not fair to her. It is not fair to her parents who brought up their daughter in a way that she could have a career and an image in the society. It is not fair to the tax paying society either. Guys, compromisation should be mutual :(සයුරිhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09304722696790672176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-68700058701921132362017-10-23T16:23:32.619+05:302017-10-23T16:23:32.619+05:30We desperately needs that supportive system.. Star...We desperately needs that supportive system.. Starting from home to work place to society.. We sure can learn from western world's mistakes.. That's what most people are afraid of I guess.. And also most of them are still living with stone age, "frog in the wall" mind set... That doesn't help the situation at all.. හිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-30439454432084613322017-10-23T15:48:56.847+05:302017-10-23T15:48:56.847+05:30Most guys I know, should feel that guilt, but they...Most guys I know, should feel that guilt, but they take it as a given.. It isn't.. It's a sacrifice of a life... They will talk about it, they will write poems about it.. They will boast about how their wives make that sacrifice, but less then handful of men. make it their mission to not to have their wives make that sacrifice.. It's more work of course but less sacrifices ..හිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-11118341868886628772017-10-23T15:41:36.378+05:302017-10-23T15:41:36.378+05:30Well, the way I see is, Doctors, Lawyers, Engineer...Well, the way I see is, Doctors, Lawyers, Engineers and teachers (for obvious reason pension and more vacation days and less working hours ) + some government jobs with pension get a little exception.. Not all, but some.. ( The higher your Job in our society's rank, they value it..) So you see, It comes back to money, always.. Nobody think about these things which I have seen women suffer from.. හිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-46556660859203237012017-10-20T12:35:04.471+05:302017-10-20T12:35:04.471+05:30Point to rethink.. I see somewhat your mom in my w...Point to rethink.. I see somewhat your mom in my wife.. and as it seems, she enjoys her life with me, three kids, two of our families with hell a lot of problems encountered day to day.. to be honest, I too feel guilty now.. කල්යාණ මිත්රhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495192611150423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-82362046237452845412017-10-19T10:13:34.795+05:302017-10-19T10:13:34.795+05:30I think the society is changing now. Most of the w...I think the society is changing now. Most of the women in our generation likes to have a career and they hardly let go of a good job when kids come along. Most of the hubbies (including mine) likes their wives to have a successful career. There may be exceptions, but in many families, we can see the husbands supporting the wives than in the past. We are both engineers and my husband bathes, changes diapers, puts the baby to sleep when he can. I know hubbies who take care of kids while the wife is away at work. <br />Pavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13547706725553496702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-16361247917057126942017-10-19T07:37:35.799+05:302017-10-19T07:37:35.799+05:30Very true kaushi, its the failure of supportive sy...Very true kaushi, its the failure of supportive system and social norms that has drived us up to this point Anith Kona https://www.blogger.com/profile/14767932840540549771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-27127767221780489752017-10-17T12:46:57.421+05:302017-10-17T12:46:57.421+05:30Very well said 👍Very well said 👍Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13322502875977085463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-50689307837165606502017-10-17T12:11:06.436+05:302017-10-17T12:11:06.436+05:30+++ I agree with you 100%
Like your mum, mine too...+++ I agree with you 100% <br />Like your mum, mine too had to give up a very successful career to bring up her children. It was 'expected' from her and she did not get support. <br />Some people's attitude is 'if the husband earns enough, what's the need for the wife to have a career?'. Well its not about money. Its about the freedom to have a choice about your life. And by the way even if the wife earns more than the husband, no one will ever suggests that the husband stays home and takes care of the kids! ηiRσhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02439763812616403492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-9124749855764380242017-10-17T07:51:12.966+05:302017-10-17T07:51:12.966+05:30well said Kaushi! well said Kaushi! ලිඛිතාhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14401181560607412530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-26256488002485985652017-10-17T07:51:06.807+05:302017-10-17T07:51:06.807+05:30Typical... hi hiTypical... hi hiහිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-89750850715710340152017-10-17T07:50:43.118+05:302017-10-17T07:50:43.118+05:30සීයක් ? සිම්පල්නෙ.... හි හිසීයක් ? සිම්පල්නෙ.... හි හිහිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-7448432899109801982017-10-17T07:47:36.481+05:302017-10-17T07:47:36.481+05:30Apparently there's not a lot as you think... M...Apparently there's not a lot as you think... Most men seems to want their wives to stay home and take care of kids.. When I ask why, their excuse is they don't have time. I asked how many off days do you get from work for a week and how many leaves you can get approved from work.. Believe me, there's a lot... If working parents can divid their parenting duties, both can work and raise kids, because many have help too... Seems bit too selfish, one sided, pre meditated crime against their wives to me, If they wish to have a job.. It's just unsettling to see many young men have this thought.. Even as their current girl friends are doing jobs.. They expect that their wives quit their jobs to take care of him and kids, as if it's their "right" to do so... They don't care what their wives will think or feel about that.. Yes, many readily sacrifice their jobs for love but after that, it's just doing house work. It's tiring, it' boring and we began to lost our connection to outside world.. She basically begin to feel and think like a prisoner.. Most woman don't voice these things, since they already know what the society expect from them.. unable to voice their needs and what they actually think, that's why our woman are silently suffering.. Nobody understand this.. Nobody will think this is an issue.. When I talk about them, do you know what the guaranteed responses are.. " You are a Feminist! Do want to stop our women to stop making babies ? .. Do you want our wives to do jobs, then who will take care of me, my kids, my parents..? .. These are the usual responses I get... Nobody care to think what I say is true or just take time to think before throwing accusations at me... I can talk, so I will talk, even that's the only thing I can do for them... ( I've heard so many stories throughout these past four years, to not to speak for them.. ) It's not what many girls are raised to do in this era.. They do want their freedom.. But men seems like they haven't got the memo yet... හිරුhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11950478786628154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-90401802227299438312017-10-16T22:07:59.338+05:302017-10-16T22:07:59.338+05:30good stuff.. good stuff.. ලිඛිතාhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14401181560607412530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-29274484482115012282017-10-16T22:00:30.682+05:302017-10-16T22:00:30.682+05:30අන්දෝ සංසාරයක් තේරුනේ නෑ කියහංකෝ අන්දෝ සංසාරයක් තේරුනේ නෑ කියහංකෝ Mahesh Rathnayakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01458743997572068706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-60463261494293778972017-10-16T21:48:21.179+05:302017-10-16T21:48:21.179+05:30ඇහ්. සිංහල බිලොග්කලාව විජාතිකත්වය ට බිලි දෙන්න හදන...ඇහ්. සිංහල බිලොග්කලාව විජාතිකත්වය ට බිලි දෙන්න හදනවද... පොතක පිටු දහයක් කියවන්න බැරි උනාට ටීවී ඩ්රාමා එකක එපිසෝඩ් සීයක් උනත් බලාවි උඹ... හැක් දේශකයාhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08022626127699514714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-48746242548910832602017-10-16T17:59:49.832+05:302017-10-16T17:59:49.832+05:30I do number 1. I did 2,3,and 4. (kids are big now)...I do number 1. I did 2,3,and 4. (kids are big now) and many more such as cooking cleaning etc. because I enjoy them.<br />There are many men who do. සරත් ලංකාප්රියhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17833808432249716749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1874741209485821779.post-37042476147841568222017-10-16T15:44:38.058+05:302017-10-16T15:44:38.058+05:30++++++++++++++++++++++ඉයන්https://www.blogger.com/profile/11882088915914113453noreply@blogger.com